How Do I Stop My Ex from Taking My Child Out of the Country?

International parental child abduction is not just a distant fear; it’s a harsh reality for many families around the world. In 2023 alone, 4.1% of the 28,886 missing children cases reported to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) were family abductions.

Whether it’s the result of an impulsive act by a parent or an orchestrated plan, parental child abduction can be devastating. Thankfully, there are legal protections in place to help prevent this. In this blog, we’ll explore the critical steps you can take to help protect your children and understand your legal rights. Here’s what you need to know.

Understanding The Hague Convention

The Hague Convention on Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction was enacted into law through the International Child Abduction Remedies Act (“ICARA”). It provides that a parent whose child has been wrongfully removed from the U.S. can petition for the child’s return to their country of habitual residence.

Parental child abduction carries significant emotional, psychological, and legal consequences. According to Travel.State.Gov, international parental child abduction involves the wrongful removal or retention of a child outside their habitual country of residence, violating the custody rights of another parent or guardian. 

The Office of Children’s Issues within the U.S. Department of State plays a pivotal role in preventing international parental child abduction, whether from or to the United States. It actively supports families involved in abduction cases and upholds the principles outlined in the Hague Convention. Let’s explore some precautions you can implement to help prevent your ex from taking your child abroad.

1. Obtain a Court Order Prohibiting Travel 

One of the most effective legal steps is obtaining a court order prohibiting travel. Known as a no-travel order, this legal directive helps ensure that your child cannot be taken outside a designated jurisdiction—a city, state, or country—without your explicit consent or a court’s permission. You will need to present evidence demonstrating concern that your ex may attempt to remove your child from the country. This is crucial if your ex has connections to another country. This includes family ties, dual citizenship, or even employment opportunities abroad.

2. Request the Seizure of Your Child’s Passport 

If you suspect your ex of international parental child abduction, request the court to order the seizure of your child’s passport. Your ex could not take your child across international borders without a valid passport. In addition to seeking a court order, you should notify the U.S. Department of State and request that your child be enrolled in the Children’s Passport Issuance Alert Program. This program is designed to help prevent international abductions by alerting you if anyone attempts to apply for a passport for your child. If a passport application is submitted, you will be immediately notified, allowing you to take swift legal action.

3. File for Sole Allocation or Specific Travel Restrictions 

Pursuing sole allocation of parental responsibilities or adding specific travel restrictions to an existing parenting plan can help prevent your ex from taking your child out of the country. Sole allocation allows one parent to decide about the child’s welfare, such as education, healthcare, and living arrangements. It’s important to note that sole allocation doesn’t exclude the other parent from the child’s life but centralizes decision-making with one parent.

It’s also crucial to understand that the Hague Convention does not affect or influence decisions regarding the allocation of parental responsibilities. The Hague Convention does not focus on the underlying merits of a custody dispute. Rather, it aims to help secure the prompt return of children wrongfully removed to or retained in another country. The Convention distinguishes between remedies available to protect “rights of custody” and “rights of access.”

Consider requesting travel restrictions in your parenting plan to further solidify your protections. These could include:

  • Requiring both parents’ written consent for international travel.
  • Mandating that your child’s passport be returned to the court after each trip.
  • Appointing a neutral third party to hold the passport when not in use.

What If My Ex Has Already Taken My Child Out of the Country?

If your ex has taken your child out of the country without your consent, time is of the essence. Under the Hague Convention, you can initiate a legal process to demand the immediate return of your child. This process can be initiated if:

  • The child was wrongfully removed or retained in a country signatory to the Hague Convention.
  • The child is under the age of 16.
  • The child was a habitual resident of the country they were taken from.

If the country is a Hague Convention signatory, we can help you file for your child’s return. However, if the country is not a signatory, the legal process becomes more complex, and international diplomacy and local laws will play a significant role in securing your child’s return. Working alongside a Hague Convention attorney can help you navigate this process.

Understanding Exceptions To Immediate Return

The Hague Convention provides a framework for the return of wrongfully removed or retained children. However, there are specific exceptions to the immediate return of a child:

  • Grave Risk: The court may refuse to return the child if there is evidence that the return would endanger the child’s health or safety. This can include situations where the child might face abuse, neglect, or severe emotional distress. Evidence of such risks must be substantial and specific to the circumstances of the case.
  • Passage of One Year: If more than a year has elapsed, and the child is well-settled in their new environment, the court may decide that returning the child is not in their best interest. The court assesses whether the child has adapted to their new surroundings and whether a return would disrupt their stability.
  • Petitioner Not Exercising Custodial Rights: If the petitioner has not been actively fulfilling their custodial responsibilities or has not sought to exercise their rights in the country of habitual residence, the court may consider this in its decision. The focus is on whether the petitioner’s actions align with the parental responsibilities and rights defined by custody arrangements. 

How Masters Law Group Can Help

At Masters Law Group, we understand the emotional and legal complexities of parental child abduction cases. Partners Erin E. Masters and Anthony G. Joseph work tirelessly to reunite families and protect children’s best. Here are some ways we can help:

  • Legal Advice: Child abduction attorneys have experience in family law and parental child abduction cases. They understand the complexities of these situations and can guide your rights and options. 
  • Court Representation: In cases of parental child abduction, our attorneys can secure emergency orders, such as orders of protection and parenting time modifications, to help protect your child.
  • International Support: We work with authorities to prevent international parental child abductions and help ensure your child’s safe return.
  • Hague Convention: If your child has been wrongfully taken to another country, we can help you facilitate your child’s return to your home country.

Final Thoughts

The fear of your ex taking your child can be overwhelming, but legal protections are in place to prevent this. Our dedicated team at Masters Law Group will help guide you through the process and help ensure your child’s safety. To demonstrate our competence, see our featured Hague Convention case decisions here.

Contact us today to schedule your complimentary consultation.


Disclaimer: The content of this blog is intended for informational purposes only and should not be considered as legal advice. While the attorneys at Masters Law Group are fully qualified to handle your legal matters, every situation is unique, and legal advice should be tailored to the specific circumstances of your case. We encourage you to consult with one of our experienced attorneys for personalized legal guidance. Reading this blog does not establish an attorney-client relationship. For professional legal assistance, please contact the Hague Convention Attorneys at Masters Law Group directly.